We have always been taught to be kind to others right from our childhood, but more often than not, we forget about being kind to ourselves. Sometimes, we can be really bitter self-critics and bring ourselves down. Many of us neglect taking care of ourselves emotionally. Life is tough in itself, and there really is no reason to make it harder than it has to be. Just think about it for a moment, the energy we spend worrying about our future, dwelling in our past, comparing ourselves to others, and judging ourselves, never having to spend any of that energy on such trivial things.
Do not associate being kind to yourself as being selfish. We need to realize that it is okay to care for ourselves, and start believing that we deserve to be happy too. Start being kind to yourself and your confidence will improve. It is very important to be kind to yourself in order to have a healthy self-esteem. In the beginning, it may feel awkward to do so, saying things that making you feel better, because we seldom do it. Doing it in small amounts everyday can really boost your mood and self-esteem. If we are able to be kind and gentle towards others, we should be able to treat ourselves the same way as well.
You can begin by quashing all self-doubt about yourself. Cheer yourself up. Be your own biggest motivator. Start thinking about all the good things you have done out of selflessness and rejoice in those memories. Be kind to your mind and do things that make you feel positive. Stop holding grudges as they are an unnecessary burden. Mistakes are a part of life and it’s absolutely okay to do mistakes. It is what makes us human. Grudges take a toll on us both physically and emotionally, so just learn from them and set yourself free.
Take a moment to give yourself credit for all the things you have done. We move through so fast through our days, we often forget to give ourselves credit which makes us unhappy. Do kind things for your mind. Take some time in the morning or evening to read a book or listen to some music or to do something that really brings you joy. If you are enjoying it, take more time. Always remember to be kind to yourself. Always ask yourself, “Have I been kind to myself today?”