Imagine how much easier it would be to succeed and be happy in life if you were constantly expecting the world to support you and bring you opportunity. Successful people do just that. This sixth step for creating the life you want, Become an Inverse Paranoid, isn’t about being self-centered, it’s about being self-confident.
Too often people who believe in themselves and their purpose (see yesterday’s post for more on finding your life’s purpose) are sometimes labeled as arrogant or just plain cocky and stuck-up. The opposite couldn’t be truer. Those of us who expect great things out of the world, each other, and ourselves realize the importance to focus inwards to build and create the necessary energy to tell the world what we want and to help others do the same. As a result, Inverse Paranoids are not afraid to speak their minds or stand up for their beliefs and for what they want out of life.
Typically the word “paranoid” means suspicious or fearful. In this context, however, the word takes out a whole different meaning. Truly paranoid people, in the sense we usually think of, are always expecting something bad to happen to them. In terms of creating the life you want, Inverse Paranoids are expecting good things to happen to them. They expect to have strong relationships and nurturing families; they expect rewarding careers; they expect to be happy and successful. Why? Because they have told the Universe this is what they want and they are taking the necessary steps and doing the necessary things to make it happen.
You can easily spot Inverse Paranoids. These are the people who take the time to improve themselves. They read, take courses, and attend lectures and seminars. They reach out to others who have achieved a particular success in order to soak in all they can from the people who are accomplishing the same things they want to achieve.
The encouraging point here is you can learn to become an Inverse Paranoid. Start by believing you deserve to have good things happen to you. Put yourself out there and begin to do the things successful and happy people do. It’s about taking time for you and investing time in yourself. However, it can be hard to do. Early on it may feel like you are being selfish and self-absorbed. But, as you begin to make progress and learn to balance all of the demands for your time in a more productive manner, it will become more natural.
After all, by taking the time to improve yourself will have positive, residual effects for everybody in your life. From an inverse focus, you can tap into your life’s desire and passion, expect it to happen, and then share it with any one you choose. That, my friend, is not selfish at all. It is a gift.