Positive self-talk is doing for yourself what you would do for a friend. It is purposeful positive reinforcement, motivation, and recognition. Pat yourself on the back when you do well, remind yourself of the skills, accomplishments and strengths you have. Keep an up-to-date to-do list nearby and check your victories.
Communication with yourself and others is constantly taking place; make a habit of using positive communication. Self-talk is an ongoing function of your mind. Your subconscious triggers physiological responses to match the thoughts you have to make them happen. Put this response to work for yourself in a positive way.
The first step is to become aware of your own thoughts. Recognize when negative self-talk takes place and immediately stop the thought and replace it with positive self-talk. This step takes time to master.
Focus on the best outcome and the steps needed to get there. Use affirmation statements.
Affirmative statements are positive self-thoughts or reminders to help you reach your goals. They are positive sticky notes, to motivate your subconscious mind.
Guidelines for positive affirmations:
- Use “I will” in place of “I will try”
- Instead of “I should do… ” use “I will do… “
- Make your statements personal to you such as “I, Pat, will… “
- Keep your statements short so that they are easily remembered.
- Use only positive, emotionally charged words in your affirmations. Ex: “I, Pat, will stay calm and focused during the meeting.” Or “I, Pat, am excited that I will succeed and make the right decisions for me.”
- Repetition is very valuable. State your affirmation(s) at least six times during the day. Say some of them while looking in the mirror, looking you in the eye. Eye to eye contact is a valuable tool, even if with you through the mirror.
Fear is without a doubt the number one thing that separates us from success.
- Why? Fear under the surface stirs up doubts. Doubts lower you self-esteem and confidence. Low self-esteem and lack of confidence holds you back. They often have harmful effects on your mind and physical body.
- Recognize what your fear is, and face it. Often doing what you fear most is the best and quickest way to end the fear.
- Positive self-talk also reduces fear. Use an affirmation such as, “I, Pat, am in control of myself and my fears.” Acknowledging that you are in control of your own thoughts, takes you from the passenger seat to the driver’s seat of your life.
- Another good affirmation is: “I master my fears; I am in control of me.”
In conclusion, become aware of your communications with yourself and others. Use positive, constructive language. Commit your affirmations to memory and repeat them often.