There’s a simple way to increase your feelings of self confidence and feel more sure of yourself in every area of your life. You don’t have to spend the rest of your life doubting yourself and second-guessing your decisions. You don’t have to feel nervous and tongue-tied when you talk to other people. You can feel confident and sure of yourself in every situation. Before I get into how to do that though, it’s important that you understand what really causes you to feel a lack of self confidence.
The One Thing That Causes Low Self Confidence
All of your feelings of not feeling confident enough in your life are caused by one simple thing: your patterns of negative thinking. You probably got into the habit of thinking negatively about yourself at an early age. If your parents or teachers were often critical of you or if you had a painful experience of failure or rejection, you may have decided that you are not capable of succeeding at your goals. You may have developed the habit of thinking that you are not good enough. These negative thinking patterns are still affecting you. If you really want to increase your self confidence, it’s time to let go of them now.
Step 1: Recognize Your Negative Thinking Patterns
To begin with, you need to start seeing that your negative thoughts are actually affecting how confident you feel. To do this, begin to notice when you start to feel anxiety or self-doubt creeping in. As soon as you are aware of this feeling, take a moment to write down what you are thinking in that moment. Ask yourself:
What am I thinking about right now and what negative thoughts or expectations am I having about it?
Step 2: Take a Moment To Relax
After you’ve written down at least one negative thought, close your eyes and take three to ten deep breaths, focusing your attention on the air going in and out of your lungs. This will help you to relax and clear your mind so you’ll be able to do the next step more easily.
Step 3: Replace Them With Positive Thoughts
The next step is to come up with an alternative way of thinking about the situation that helps you feel more confident and sure of yourself. You might tell yourself thoughts like these:
It will all work out fine. I know I can do it. The more I practice, the better I’ll get.
Don’t worry if this takes a little time to come up with better feeling thoughts to begin with. As you practice, this process will become easier for you. When you take the time to change your negative thoughts on a regular basis like this, eventually you’ll find that more positive, confident ways of thinking will start to come naturally to you. When that happens, you will have discovered the secret to feeling more confident in every area of your life.