Although we might not want to believe it, fact is, nobody’s perfect. There’s always room
for improvement, and if we’re totally honest with ourselves, we’ll find at least some areas
that can be worked on. Begin by asking yourself the following questions:
What are my strengths?
Which areas need improvement?
How do I develop these skills?
While each of us has unique self improvement needs, the following guide does apply to
most people on the path to personal development.
Think ahead: Focus your attention on long-term goals. This means thinking through the
long-term consequences of your actions. This will also enable you to develop personal
abilities to deal with those curveballs life with throw at you.
Open your mind: Your critics are your greatest teachers, and it’s up to you to learn from
them. If you’re getting similar feedback from several people on a specific area of
improvement, take an objective look. If you think they have a point, they’ve actually done
you a favor. Figure out how you can make changes. You can also learn from other
people’s mistakes – if your daughter is a habitual latecomer, are you sure she’s not
following your example?
Think positive: And no, this isn’t motherhood and apple pie stuff. Don’t let frustration
get you down. Instead, use dissatisfaction as an instrument of change. It’s amazing how
if you say something to yourself often enough, you’ll get around to believing it!
Commit to life: Promise yourself that you’ll live a fuller life, starting right now. That
means taking those half chances, and kissing regrets goodbye. Second thoughts are a
big obstacle to personal development; rid your DNA of them!
Make time: Unassailable fact – we all have exactly the same number of hours in a day.
So how is it that you can’t find time to do some of the things that really matter, like
attending your son’s first baseball game or taking that family vacation? List out the top
priorities in your life and make time for them! Incidentally, it’s the same with personal
development – it won’t work until you give it adequate time.
Learn to say no, and yes: The key goal of personal development is to strengthen
character. The only thing worse than being a doormat is being pig-headed. Stand your
ground on issues that you believe in. At the same time, there’s no shame in admitting
that you were wrong about something.
Say it: It’s amazing what heartfelt appreciation and gratitude can do for you, even when
you’re at the giving end. Be generous and genuine with praise. You’re sure to reap
amazing returns on this investment!
The first and most important step in your quest for personal development is to make that
commitment. There are plenty of experts out there to help you along the way.